A great of addictive love is that we really do want to love and be loved, but our addictive selves fear closeness. At the basis of most relationship problems, addictive or otherwise, is a betrayal of trust. When trust is violated, we lose our innocence and step into fear. Once again, love addiction is grounded in fear: fear of rejection, fear of pain, fear of losing control, fear of loss of self or loss of life. Love addiction’s intent is to connect and avoid what we fear.